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To my love on our twenty-sixth wedding anniversary:

Every year when we go on our anniversary dinner date, you ask me the same question.

“So…where do you think we’ll be in ten years?”

Though I love the idea of verbalizing our ideas of what life will be like a decade from today while enjoying a meal together at a romantic restaurant, I never feel like I have a good enough answer: you always seem to have a more specific picture in mind than I do. I’m an excellent planner on a day-to-day basis but life has so many twists and turns that it’s hard for me to imagine what it would be like ten years down the road. That’s why, after I spend a few minutes failing to come up with a detailed vision to describe to you, I always just say,

“I don’t care where we’ll be…as long as we’re together.”

This year we have been busy coming to the realization that this empty-nester thing is really going to happen (in just a little more than eight months!). We’re starting to look at how our life is going to be when it’s “just us” most of the time, and, admittedly, it looks pretty darn good. We have always made sure to give our relationship “Very Important” status and since the beginning we knew that even though we wanted to have a family and enjoy our kids as much as humanly possible while we raised them, eventually it would be “just us” again. I am thankful we kept that in mind all this time, because rather than being filled with dread that the boys are nearly grown and out of the house, we are excited to watch them take steps toward their individual dreams while we reinvent our way of living as “just us”.

I anticipate that even though we have some definite ideas of things we want to include in our future (like making travel plans and continuing to hold hands), we will keep on letting the twists and turns of life inspire us to make the most of it all, and we’ll choose each path along the way, as a team.

All of that being said, my answer to your question tonight at dinner is going to be the same as it always is.

I don’t care where we’ll be…as long as we’re together.”

I decided that I’m not even going to try and come up with specifics before I say that, because I think this was the best answer all along.

Happy anniversary. I love you.

Forever yours,

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  • Liz December 29, 2012, 7:53 am

    Happy Anniversary, you crazy kids.

    • Melisa December 30, 2012, 8:49 am

      Thanks, lady! xo

  • As Cape Cod Turns December 29, 2012, 8:05 am

    Happpppppy Anniversary!!! This deserves a big rainbow cake, just sayin’!!!!

    • Melisa December 30, 2012, 8:49 am

      Yes, but I didn’t feel like making one so we just had dessert at the restaurant… 🙂

  • Just Jen December 29, 2012, 8:46 am

    That was beautiful, and made me cry. Happy Anniversary! Here’s to 26 more!!

    • Melisa December 30, 2012, 8:48 am

      Sorry for the tears. 🙂 And thanks!

  • Shannon December 29, 2012, 9:15 am

    Happy Anniversary to both of you! That keeping the marriage front and center thing can be very difficult sometimes. It sounds like the two of you could give lessons. Congrats!

    • Melisa December 30, 2012, 8:48 am

      Thanks, Shannon!

  • Flawless Mom December 29, 2012, 9:52 am

    That is so beautiful. My mom and dad always put their relationship first, which is why they were together every day for 44 years and never ran out of things to do or talk about. I’m not even sure they really “noticed” when their nest was empty. That’s not to say we weren’t their world. We were, my brother and I. But they were each other’s world, too.
    So happy for you guys. You are blessed.

    • Melisa December 30, 2012, 8:46 am

      Thanks, Lisa! xo

  • Tara R. December 29, 2012, 10:53 am

    Happy anniversary and all that jazz. Hope you have a wonderful celebration.

    • Melisa December 30, 2012, 8:47 am

      Thanks Tara! (We did.)

  • Momo December 29, 2012, 10:50 pm

    Oh, hell. Now I want to marry you both.

    • Melisa December 30, 2012, 8:46 am

      Sister wives!! 🙂

  • Jeanette Nyberg December 30, 2012, 5:20 pm

    Beautiful, Melissa, and Happy Anniversary! Oh my goodness. 26 years is impressive- hope you had a wonderful din-din.

  • Mom24 January 3, 2013, 3:03 pm

    Aww, great answer Melisa. Happy Anniversary.