Today is Yom Kippur, the most sacred day of the year in the Jewish religion. It’s our “Day of Atonement”, meaning that we are apologizing for the sins of the past year and seeking forgiveness. A big part of Yom Kippur is saying “I’m sorry”.
Saying those two words is very easy for me. Although I have perfectionist tendencies (ya think?), I have absolutely no problem admitting that I have made a mistake. In fact, usually when I discover I’ve made an error I completely overcompensate in the apology department because I feel so terrible about it. (That’s an issue for another day. Or for a therapist.)
I consider myself lucky to be able to apologize with ease. “I’m sorry” can smooth down ruffled feathers, mend fences, and start to heal broken hearts. Not everyone has the ability to apologize easily, and that can cause problems both internally as well as in relationships with others.
It makes me wonder what it is that makes this simple act so easy for some but not for others. Is it in the genes? Is it how we were raised? Our life experiences? How others treat us? It’s probably a combination of all of those things.
Where do you stand? Are you like me, or on the other end of the spectrum? Were you once able to say “I’m sorry” easily but now have difficulty, or vice versa?
On that note and in honor of Yom Kippur, I want to apologize to any of you who I may have hurt or offended in the past year, and hope you’ll forgive me. For my Jewish readers: I hope you have an easy fast.
May this new year be happy, healthy, and prosperous for all.